Cut the suckers is a mantra that asks us to bring awareness to what is essential in our lives. It encourages us to cultivate what we need and snip off the rest. Cut the suckers is a signal, paarticularly for working mothers with limited time, to resist the tendency to fill up every […]

Cut the suckers is a mantra that asks us to bring awareness to what is essential in our lives. It encourages us to cultivate what we need and snip off the rest. Cut the suckers is a signal, paarticularly for working mothers with limited time, to resist the tendency to fill up every […]

While the openheartedness of mothering is infused with enormous power to love, heal, and protect, it also has the ability to impact our children in less growth-enhancing ways.  Because we love them so deeply, we risk identifyine too closely with their pain, joy, successes, and failures.  When the line between who we are and who […]

It’s one thing to take affront when a parent, a friend, or a stranger openly criticizes our mothering.  But sometimes we think there is judgment where there is not.  Sometimes the negative scripts we run in our heads– often without our being aware of them– cause us to distort reality.  It can be like wearing the […]

I can stand it empowers you to withstand anything without changing anything.  You know that this will pass and you don’t have to escape or obliterate anything for your emotional equilibrium.  Telling yourself that you can’t stand something confines your options by prodding you to react.

No matter what we thought they would look like, act like, sound like, eat like, run like, or smile like, sooner or later we see that ‘they are who they are.’

It’s often difficult to get instant perspective on situations as mothers. Things happen fast and we’re emotionally charged. But with practice, we can establish a tendency to regularly ’stand behind the yellow line.’ In doing so, we begin to see that the gravity and oppressiveness of situations is magnified when we have tunnel vision. When […]

… in terms of growing up, PAIN IS PART OF IT. In fact, one of the four noble truths of Buddhism is the explicit acknowledgment that suffering is part of the human condition.